Exploring your Ordinary
The Ordinary is comfortable with
what is common, everyday, conventional,
typical and routine. It is content to be
living in the moment without the need to
focus on what tomorrow might bring. This self
is nourished and satisfied by the more simple
pleasures of life.
The Ordinary often maintains a
child like quality as it thrives on the
little things, finding comfort and contentment
in "what is." This self is often connected
to our physical body through taking the time
to stop and enjoy our many senses. With the
ability to be in the moment it can enjoy
smelling the
roses, particular tastes of
foods, the sensation of bubbles from a
carbonated beverage, the feel of the autumn
air or the sound of it's favorite music.
The Ordinary has no need for
fancy cars, big houses, notoriety or glamour.
A down to earth quality allows this self to
value things for their true essential nature.
The Ordinary tends to be humble, not
seeking recognition or approval from others.
IDENTIFYING A DOMINANT ORDINARY:
If you are over-identified with your
Ordinary Self you may experience a loss of
motivation in daily life, career or
relationships. You can get stuck in the here
and now, losing the opportunity to explore
other ideas and possibilities in your life.
RECOGNIZING AN UNTAPPED
ORDINARY:
When your Ordinary Self has been
untapped you may tend to focus on experiences
of a unique and exceptional nature. The need
for things to feel special and extraordinary
tends to become a driving force.
MAINTAINING BALANCE WITH THE
ORDINARY:
To experience and maintain a healthy
connection with this self you need to
acknowledge where it falls on the spectrum
between dominant and untapped. A balanced
relationship with your Ordinary Self supports
the integration of an untainted,
uncomplicated perspective while allowing us
to still seek out new and unique
possibilities.
POSSIBLE OPPOSITES TO EXPLORE:
Every dominant self has a corresponding
opposite that holds possible clues to its
current status. Potential opposites for
this self can be seen in selves such as the
The Prince/Princess, The Image-maker, The
Perfectionist
DIALOGING WITH YOUR ORDINARY:
- Where does your Ordinary fall
on the spectrum from dominant to untapped?
- What are the qualities that this self
carries for you?
- What is your earliest memory of your
Ordinary?
- What does this self need or want by
asking for your attention at this time?
- If your Ordinary is dominant, who is the
opposite self that needs expression?
